This line is everywhere this January. After 2020, we are all looking forward to getting back to some semblance of normal. Will 2021 be a better year? That is up to you!
What does a better year mean to you? You can’t have a better year without knowing what it is that you want. So, what do you want? You must be crystal clear about what you want, for this will help you to see your options. Having options will then help you to make better decisions and choices as you move towards your goal.
Just knowing what you want isn’t enough. You must take actions to make it happen! In Chinese astrology, the saying is you can have all the luck given to you. But if you don’t take action, all the luck is nothing but a waste.
I don’t usually make New Year’s Resolutions. But this year, I wanted to have a goal because I felt 2020 went by rather aimlessly. Do you feel that way too? So, in preparation for my goal and plans, I read “Limitless” by Jim Kwik, and “Tiny Habits” by BJ Fogg over Christmas. I am glad I read these two books as I’ve had several “Ah-ha!” moments.
Here are few points that resonated with me:
1. Get to the root cause:
Why do you really want to achieve this goal you’ve set for yourself? If you want to lose 20 lbs in 2021, why? What will you get out of it? What pleasures/hopes will you gain if you achieve your goal? What pains/fears will haunt you if you don’t move towards your goals? Without a solid outcome that will impact you emotionally, you are not going to be motivated to move forward and stick with your plan.
2. Is this goal obtainable?
Looking for the easy way out is human nature. You will not have motivation to work towards something that is too difficult and seemingly unattainable. If your goal seems too big, break it down into smaller, simpler pieces so each small piece is realistic and achievable. These small pieces are your steppingstones towards your big lofty goal!
3. Do you have enough time and energy to follow through?
If your goal is to exercise 5 days a week, 1.5 hours each day, do you have the time and energy to do this? Be realistic about your actionable items. If you’ve never exercised before, try 30 minutes of light exercise every other day, then gradually build up as you gain more stamina. Similarly, is it reasonable to ask yourself to work 10 hours a day, 6 days a week in your new business? You will have to be the judge of that. Even if you manage to work 10-hour days, will you still have time for your family? Will you have time for exercise? Will you have energy to exercise? Having had my own business, I know this work schedule can send you into burnout mode quickly.
Finally, to accomplish all the actionable items, you will need physical energy. Investigate how to keep your energy level up. You may look into eating the right foods, sleep better, reducing stress (stress sucks a lot of energy out of you!) and using the right supplements if this is warranted.
4. Do you believe you can do this?
Mindset is key. If your underlying belief is that you will never be able to do this, we need to work on that first. Many of us have faulty beliefs that we carried forward as a child. Unfortunately, many of us believed the “lies” that we were told. It may sound like “You are not equipped to do this” or “you are not good enough”. We carried these negative narratives around with us into adulthood. Now we want to do something as adults, these narratives automatically come up and stops us in our tracks.
Try establishing a different belief system. If you hear yourself saying something negative, change it by adding the word “yet” to the sentence. Now “You are not equipped to do this” becomes “You are not equipped to do this YET”. Now you’ve opened yourself up for possibilities and enable you to analyze what tools and resources you already have, and what else you might require.
5. Commit to a deadline
For serious procrastinators like me, I need deadlines to keep me moving. It’s just so easy to put things off until tomorrow when there is no urgency. I carry a planner with me to put in deadlines. Even if it’s something trivial, I still enter a deadline just to be certain.
While I don’t expect the world to be that different in 2021, but the vaccines certainly give me hope. Even with more vaccines, things will not be normal for a while as the roll-out of vaccination program depends largely on supply and administration. But none of this should stop you from striving to reach your personal goals. The human species is very resourceful, and we will figure out ways to work around the pandemic and continue to grow.
For 2021, Stay Healthy and Live with Vitality my friends!